I don't believe that 'everything happens for a reason,' as the saying goes. I do believe that some things happen for a reason, for instance to move you forward in a decision, or get you thinking about a situation you're in that might no longer be beneficial. I think that these events of synchronicity are not of our making, but come to us at a time when we need a change, a reflection, a move of one kind or another.
When I was young, I saw synchronicity as an event that would push me in a direction. For instance, a break up with a boyfriend, or waking up too late to go to class and give a presentation in a design class, made me think it was definitely time to drop out of my college studies and head for Manhattan and become an actress. Maybe that was so, maybe it was just what I wanted to believe was the right course for me. I did not pursue acting for very long, deciding after two years that was not what my inner drive was made for, but art and design, after all.
Many years later, I still know that the best thing I ever did for myself was make that move, at that time, and do what I did. College was still there for me to return to, and I discovered that I had developed a thick skin about my creative endeavors, which allowed me, in later years to take direction and do well financially with my talents, and not waste time on sensitive feelings, if a client or agent did not love one of my designs as much I as thought they should. Living in Manhattan and doing odd modeling jobs, soap opera walk-ons, and generally living from hand to mouth for those two years, also taught me that I never had to be afraid to work free lance in anything I chose. Another successful outcome of my youthful desire to become an actress. My late husband and I did some technical legal work for over 30 years, free lance, had many clients, free time and a bountiful living.
Maybe breaking up with a short term boyfriend whom I seldom ever thought of again, or missing a class project deadline and earning a 'D' as a grade, was synchronicity at work, pushing me on to something else: Manhattan. At the time, I thought it was a calling for me to become an actress. Looking back, the picture seems much bigger: it was a calling for me to make a change that would reveal what direction I really wanted to go in, no matter how badly I was stuck on that actress notion. Those acting class taught me much more than how to act.
Many years later, I feel that meeting certain people is synchronicity. I can usually feel it when I meet them, right off, even though the purpose of our connection may not be divulged right away. It may even take years. I feel a certain, and important influence by their smile, their comment, or the way they walk past me. If I try to ignore the feeling, it keeps coming back to me, whenever I see them or hear of them. I tell myself it might be a simple attraction to a man, and I can just turn my head and it won't matter, but certain signals are pointing to this person for some reason.
The type of person that needs an explanation for everything, by 'explaining everything away,' as I see it, might say this were just a simple male - female attraction, but I don't think so. Maybe we were brought together for some other purpose, during a time of reflection, for both of us, in our lives. So separate for even the several years we have known one another, and now, at a time for action, I, at least, will make new and important choices in my life because he spoke to me about miscellaneous topics and shared some laughter with me. What does it mean for him, I wonder, and is this reciprocal synchronicity, or is it just meant for me? I have no doubt that Time will reveal the reason, and a new path.
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